Why talking about our Problems can sometimes make them worse

I know this is gonna sound a little controversial, but here it is: talking about your problems isn’t always helpful. In fact, sometimes, it can actually make things worse.

I know, I know…everyone says, “You need to talk about it! Don’t bottle things up!” And sure, that’s true in some cases. But here’s where I think people get stuck: venting can feel like doing something when, in reality, you’re just reinforcing the same mental loops.

Think about it..how many times have you gone over the same problem with a friend, talking in circles, only to feel just as stuck afterward? That’s because the brain works in patterns. The more you repeat a thought, the more it gets ingrained. If all yo do is vent without shifting anything internally, you’re just deepening the neural pathway of that problem.

And here’s the kicker:talking about something can actually release just enough emotional pressure that you feel temporary relief… but that relief might stop you from actually doing something about it. It’s like your brain thinks, “Well, I talked about it, so I’ve dealt with it.” But nothing has actually changed.

don’t get me wrong..I’m not saying you should stay silent and suppress everything. But there’s a difference between processing an issue in a way that leads to growth and just emotionally dumping it over and over. Instead of just talking about a problem, the real shift comes from asking yourself, “Okay, what’s the next action I can take?”

Would love to hear your thoughts.