Lydia is gone after alfland

Went trough my playtrough normally. Doing the main quest and so on. When you get to the middle of alfland you begin to encounter the falmer after a drop down. I dropped down to the bottom of the pit to skip some rooms while Lydia was following me. After i killed some of the Falmer i waited so Lydia could catch up, but she wouldnt spawn on me.

After that i just presses on and hoped she would eventually just begin to follow, but 20 irl hours later she still hasnt come after me? I havent gotten a letter saying shes dead yet and i checked the hall of the dead in whiterun, but she isnt there either.

I began testing. I can recruit companions so that means shes not following me anymore. I tried to TP her ID to me, but that doesnt work either.

Anyone got a fix?