Is my 26M relationship with 26F dead?

Hey Reddit,

I’m feeling pretty down about my relationship. It seems like intimacy has just vanished, and I’m lucky to get any real affection from my partner. They’re always glued to their phone and doing things last minute. Whenever I try to get close, they suddenly claim they’re “too tired” or have a headache or stomachache.

Even when I do manage to catch their attention, it often ends with them shouting or criticising me over minor issues or things they’ve done themselves. It always feels like the blame is on me.

They react bitter and snapping every time, and I often find myself apologizing for things I haven’t done or simply trying to dismiss it and act as if nothing happened (even if there is things I have done or they expect me to do they just make it seem like I should be able to read minds as their communication skills are lack lustre) to see if that makes a difference or to see if she would be more affectionate towards me which just doesn’t seem to be happening.

Honestly, it seems like they don’t love me anymore. I feel like the relationship is ruined, and nothing I do or say seems to make a difference. Any advice or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated.