Apparently grey rocking is “disrespectful”

And I’m exhausted. I’ve been protecting my peace for months but emom tells me I’m disrespectful cause I don’t talk to ndad. (He said that to her about me btw.) She comes back and tells me what he says (Idk if that’s beneficial to me mentally). she said she shut it down cause this is the second time he’s done this unprovoked when they’re in public together. She also had a procedure the same day so that just lets you know what kind of man he is to whine about it.

I’m just really exhausted being made to be the villain just for minding my business and it’s like what about me? Why should I sacrifice my peace to accommodate a man child? Just leave me alone please my life is so much more peaceful when I don’t have to interact with him. It doesn’t matter how nice I am because the narrative will always be that I’m a bad daughter and he will deny ever saying these things to me.

I feel like I will go insane because my trauma from him is always overshadowed or forgotten :(

Edit: Thank you all for the support and insight even if I don’t reply 🤍