Styling/Trimming advice? I normally style it as per 3rd pic because my hair won't maintain any other style without flattening through the day.

I can't seem to find a good style that fits my face, and whenever I do try something, my hair falls out of it almost immediately. I've tried pommade, clay, powder, you name it. Only lasting is hairspray but then my hair is crunchy and shiny. So I normally end up tangling it intentionally to keep it at least reasonable.

Any haircut I could maybe give my barber to help or other styling tips would be appreciated.