Looking for Diaper Bag Recs

First time mom-to-be looking for a luxury diaper bag, I don’t want a neverfull/goyard tote nor do I want to spend money on a birkin (on the secondary market, of course!). Any recommendations? All the options I’ve seen online look very basic and not stylish enough. I expect it to get messy and would like something with enough space to hold baby things and my wallet. Also, moms- is a tote bag a bad idea for my shoulder/back? Are backpacks more convenient? TIA :)