College extrovert experience: expectation vs reality

I 21F recently had the pleasure of chatting with the father of daughters 18F and 22F. He commented on my post on another sub about being neurodivergent but we ended up talking about how his daughter and I are very similar. We both are supposedly out going, social, kind, but one thing we have in common is we both struggle to make friends. She notices people are kind but not seeking to befriend her and in my experience people want nothing to do with me. We’re both extroverts! Does anyone relate to this phenomenon of extroverts being lonely and getting this type of treatment? Because I always thought my extroversion made me likable and I would make friends easily but it seems at my school introverts or cliquey people have an easier time! Thoughts?