Can a guy get too good at being single?

I must say I really did genuinely try to get into a relationship between the ages of 19 and 34. I did everything you should, joined clubs, pursued hobbies, made friends, was social. Spent way way more time out at bars than any non-alcoholic ever should.

I probably asked out a dozen women in person. Asked out another two dozen co-workers out over text messages.  I used my few friends as leverage to see if they knew anyone who might want to date me.

 Between undergrad and graduate school, I spent 7 years in higher education. I would guess I asked out between 75 and 125 classmates and other people I knew on campus over email.

I got some dates out of it. Not many though. If you are curious I got 6 first dates, and 2 second dates after all of that. I am not upset or bitter or anything. I get it I am very different. I am shy, introverted, autistic. Women do not naturally like me. At about 34 for all intents and purposes I gave up. I come from a family where I do not need to work. I participate very little in society. Politely I could be called eccentric. Slightly more accurately I could be described as anti-social.

For most of my adult life I have not had any platonic friends. So obviously I have had to get pretty good at entertaining myself. There are some harsh realities a person has to face when they spend every night alone. The thing is, I did it. Like I am a perfectly content and happy person being single.

I have my rough edges of course. I have my downtimes- I am human after all. But on the whole, I love my life being single. I learned how to spend all those nights alone. I pursued interests and intellectual pursuits completely independently of any other person. I won't say it was easy. And I probably lost a few years off the back end of my life getting to this point. But I fucking did it 🙂

I still consider myself open to a relationship. Yet, even I have to acknowledge I would have to change to be in a relationship. I really do not have to compromise much in life. I basically get to do whatever I want all the time. I realize that would not transition into a relationship. My point being is that I have no incentive to change in order to get into a relationship. I am single and happy with who I am 🙂

I guess the concern though is that socially I am too far gone to ever get into a relationship. A bit of a bummer I suppose. I am not sure what I could have done differently 🙂