Bella's regression

(I apologize for the novel. I binged watts videos on my 16hr overnight, and have no one in real life to talk about it with🤷‍♀️i prob. did to much 🤦‍♀️)

I've often wondered what happened to bring about the change in Bella. When she was a toddler (in SW's earlier videos), she appeared so much more happy, confident, vocal, & even seemed to like being on camera. The more recent LIVES Bella seemed to regress in speech, developmentally & socially. She obviously started having more melt downs/whining & frequently would run and hide. CiW even noted that Bella went from being a confident and happy toddler to very shy, cautious, and somber, in her book

You can even see how Bella seems to regress once cece is walking. I've noticed bella frequently seems to follow her around, mimicking whatever it is that cece is doing. Usually, it's the younger child that's mimicking the older sibling/kids' actions. Bella is doing this in an attempt to get SW approval & attention. You can tell she is unsure of herself or what she should be doing & will look to cece for guidance of how to approach the situation. This would be fine in a school or social setting, but watching her feel insecure/awkward while at home with her mom(in her "safeplace") seemed notable to me. She sees cece is getting laughs, and all moms attention (cece say "hi", cece do squat walks), so Bella tries to emulate her younger sister .

This could be a result of being locked in a dark room with little to no sensory for 12+ hours. Not getting the age appropriate stimuli and nuturing. Or could this be due to a change in the household? Regression in kids that experience a big change is normal but should be temporary (starting preschool, having a new baby, change in schedule, parent, divorce, family move).In my opinion, her regression continued for 18mnths- 2 yrs.

Cece had been around for enough time to adapt from an only child to a sibling. She'd been attending primerose and seemed to thoroughly enjoy it. Was she awake long enough to get the attention she needed from her grandparents? Did their moving back to NC affect her? Was SW less obsessed with her phone and able to be more present the 3 hours a day Bella was allowed to interact with her?

Many have peculated SW was abusing 💊. I've thought this for years. Her moods would be unpredictable, "flying" and going Live, having "so much energy its awesome", and doing a whole bunch of nothing, becoming fixated/stuck on mudane tasks (going live and ignoring your crying hungry child, making a 3yr old do a vision board, spending 4hours cleaning a bathroom, changing laundry & putting away groceries, spending hrs scrolling on her phone). Could this be why she was irritable and a bully to Bella? Was that when she ran out or was she so 🔝she thought she was funny?

Maybe the hairdressers that worked with SR were right, and seperation & selling the house had been the plan. Parents fighting is more than enough to cause Bella to no longer feel secure in her home & act out how she sees her parents behave.

She had always been subjected to self soothing while being in the dark and alone - her sched never changed. Was it finally presenting as neglect, as her emotional and dev. needs weren't being met? As an infant, Sw could get away with laying her down and walking away We all know Sw wasn't on the floor playing w her, surely wasn't teaching her anything. Could they even have an actual conversation.....with how Bella talked, I doubt it. Everything sw said about Bella was generic. She failed to realize at almost 5yrs old, they're a little person. One you can interact with past a superficial level.

.In my opinion, bella didn't seem comfortable at home or around SW. You can leave a baby with an adult, and if they recognize their face, they will smile instead of cry. They trust the familiar face & feel safe. At bellas age, she still had no real connection with her mom. They never bonded, never forming a secure attachment.How close could they actually have been? On the odd weeks SW didn't travel, they spent only 20hrs together. That's 80 hours a month. In bellas entire life, less than 5000 hours was spent with her mom.....

Whatever the underlying reason, it's clear Bella became anxious, self-conscious, appeared sad & afraid of new things. She began having trouble expressing/understanding her big emotions & having increased difficulting with communicating. bellas regression was the only coping mechanism she knew. It breaks my heart to think of how she would have blossomed had she had the parents she needed and worked with her.

If you're still here, 🙌🙌 I'd LOVE to hear what your thoughts or what you feel the reason for her regression was.