It's wild to me when delena shippers use Jeremy as an argument in favour of their ship

They bring up what Stefan did in 4x07 as a gotcha moment, as if Damon didn't literally killed Jeremy and hurt him multiple times afterwards. Stefan was a jerk one time, Damon is continuously abusive. It doesn't compare.

Also, Jeremy was outright a stelena supporter in the first two seasons. In season 1, he helped Stefan organize a dinner for Elena, in 2x08, he congratulated them for getting back together. I guess he didn't particularly care for them anymore after Stefan's ripper binge in season 3, but when has Jeremy ever supported delena? He never did at any point.

Pointing out that Jeremy and Stefan barely have a relationship is dumb when Jeremy and Damon's "relationship" is mostly Damon abusing and bullying Jeremy. I'd take a distant brother-in-law over an abusive one.