Am I being reasonable

I would like to know from the happily married folks or ones who’ve found their person. I have a set of questions because second time around I’m not trying to settle again. Am I being reasonable with these set of questions?

  1. Am I 100% Content?

    • Do I feel completely at ease and happy with the idea of marrying this person?
    • Is my answer a resounding "hell yes" when I think about committing to them? Or am I hesitating or thinking, "we’ll see"?

  2. Do They Add to My Life?

    • Does this person make my life more joyful, peaceful, and fulfilling?
    • When I think of the future, do I see this person contributing positively to my happiness and dreams, especially in terms of Deen?

  3. Excitement and Friendship

    • Do I feel excited when I see or think about them?
    • Can I see this person as a friend, someone I want to share both fun and serious moments with for the long term?
    • Does their presence make my life feel fuller and more exciting?

  4. Attraction

    • Do I find this person physically and emotionally attractive?
    • Would I want to be intimate with them? Does being with them help me lower my gaze?
    • When I look at them, do I think, "okay!" or "damn!" — not "hmm..." or "uh..."

  5. Respect

    • Do I genuinely respect this person’s character, values, and the way they carry themselves?
    • Can I see myself continuing to respect them in the long run, even in tough times?
    • Do they uphold the qualities I value, like accountability, honesty, and patience?

  6. Alignment with Deen

    • Does this person have a consistent relationship with the Quran and lead their life according to Islamic principles?
    • Are they capable of fulfilling the traditional marriage roles that are important to me, like being a provider and a leader in khair?

  7. Temperament and Kindness

    • Is their temperament calm, kind, and patient, especially in challenging situations?
    • Do they treat me and other women with kindness, generosity, and respect?

  8. Shared Life Vision

    • Do they support my dreams related to Deen and family?
    • Do I feel aligned with them in terms of our future roles—family, children, and how we’ll balance responsibilities?