How Obsessions With Relationships Ruins People

I'm a gay man, but I think my experiences are universal.

I'm 30. I noticed, when I got to my late twenties, the concept of casual dating vanished. Because so many people are pairing off, and settling down, the remaining get desperate to find someone, as the pool shrinks. This resulted in me getting a lot of pressure to commit, without really knowing the person knowing. I got a lot of 'When are we (insert milestone)?' after a few dates. I always push back, and it never ends well. This is going to sound egotistical. I assure, I'm no hot stuff. I've had men reach out to me years later, after a falling out saying something like 'Hey...I know we had a falling out, but can we try again?'

It's sad. They realized the leftover people available are bad, so they want to go back to when they had a good time, which was me, or other people I don't know of. I could go on about how pathetic these men were, when they tried to make contact again, but I don't want to sound condescending, as if I'm a ten Alpha male. I'm not. I'm average.