"Just be yourself" is a terrible advice

I have the misfortune of physically looking like a dark triad type, but without the cool commanding personality to go along with it.

and I noticed that as long as I faked a hyper-social know-it-all 'street smart' persona girls would stick around, yet the moment my mask slipped and my quirky mannerisms would show their interest started to wane asap. 'Having game' is essentialy masking your true self to become what women want.

I also noticed how sexually successful men not only look attractive, they have very similar cliched body motoric; often times man spreading or at least rarely crossing their legs when they sit, their hands don't dangle in a feminine manner when they walk, they never allow themselves to giggle with a high pitch...