I can't believe how hard this game is

I played mercenary, beat everything blindfolded, did ascendancy trials like way too easily, and then i hit the final boss of act 2. I couldn't beat him possibly. I made a new character (Sorceress) and can't even beat the ascendancy trials. Mage classes (Sorceress and Witch) are too weak, energy shield is beyond useless, and is it just me or do they deal no damage at all? The final boss of the trial of the sekhema, rattlecage, is weak to ice. What good does that do me when all ice spells deal ludicrous damage? I'm talking tiny numbers here, they basically scratch the WEAK TO ICE golem on its rocky surface.

THIS IS NO HATE AGAINST THE GAME, I LOVE POE2!!!

obviously, the game is in early access, and many things need to be adjusted in due time. But the one thing i wanna see the most is the difficulty. Why is every game that gets released nowadays trying to be the next soulsborne title? Why does everything have to be so incredibly difficult? I understand one thing. There are people out there, many even perhaps, who enjoy a good challenge. The harder, the better. But you gotta understand that these people are not the ONLY ones playing the game. By forcing people like me to play on extreme difficulty (Which is the new standarts) we get frustrated and eventually quit playing. When all we truly need is a difficulty setting. COME ON! There are already settings to make the game HARDER, you can play on hardcore or solo self found. Why is there nothing to make the game EASIER? Is it forbidden?

If Grinding Gear Games makes anything to make the game easier for people like me, i'd be so incredibly happy, considering how amazing the game is. But hitting my head against an unbeatable brick wall in the form of a final boss i cannot possibly defeat is not fun.

So what i'm saying is, should there be a difficulty setting? Am i just crying casual tears, or would you guys approve an option that lets everyone play on their own difficulty, at their own speed? Is it something only i want or does anybody else want that too?