Wife will be a SAHM soon and shes stressed.

The short of it is my mother used to babysit for us and she moved away in late November to look after her parents accross the country. After experimenting with a daycare service weve come to the conclusion its not within our budget for daycare over summer so her staying home and me working is a better solution for the kids and our wallets. My wife is a fantastic mother and partner. Shes my best friend and we havent fought or argued once in the 13 years together so im not worried about all that type of stuff.

Today on the way home from checking my moms mail/house she started to get emotional about it and opened up about her issues. Ive been able to see shes off a little and mentally processing it alot. She loves her job and they love her, she plans on going back in roughly 2 years when both kids are in school and has been told shes welcome back.

Shes stressed about her internal self worth will be and how to function day to day with no "job" per say and processing hoe she will be able to enjoy seeing the kids way more than most parents now. Overall i think i just need ways to help her manage and not short circuit with her brain being on over drive processing it all. Any ideas or words of encouragement are welcome and appreciated.

Edit: since its been brought up a few times, the day care cost over summer with both kids(3/7) there she will be bringing home roughly $10-20 a day. She is excited to be a SAHM mom, she seems to be over thinking this change in our lives and letting herself over stress because mentally shes in high gear processing it. Shes always been envious of other SAHMs

Edit 2: i have absolutely zero wild expectations for her. I was a SAHD during covid when my work was shut down for 9 months. Ive been there. My concern is helping her feel confident going into it. I have completed faith in her shes over thinking it all over nothing.

Edit 3: being a sahm was entirely her idea. I wasnt against her working. Im just looking for was to help support her. Once we put the kids down for bed tonight we will be going over all the comments together to see if any of the ideas here feel like things she would like as support to help her confidence going into this.

As for the bankruptcy part of it we are filing so we can cut down our monthly costs since were loosing one income. If we were keeping the free babysitter grandma we wouldnt be changing anything and would be making great progress on our debts. With both kids in childcare for summer her weekly take home would cover the gas for her to get back and forth to work and the childcare and part of the groceries.