Why Arranged Marriages Scare Me: True stories
True Stories That Made Me Question Trust 🥹
Arranged marriages have long been considered a reliable and respectful way to bring two families together. But as I’ve grown older and witnessed more of the world around me, I’ve come to realize that trust—the very foundation of marriage—can be dangerously fragile. The surface may show the perfect union of two people, but underneath can lie secrets, betrayal, and manipulation. While I once believed in the certainty that an arranged marriage promised, several incidents I’ve encountered have shaken that belief to its core. These stories are not just isolated cases—they represent a pattern that has made me question the very foundation of trust and truth in relationships.
Story 1: A Marriage Built on Secrets
A close acquaintance introduced me to a young woman who had recently gotten married. But what he shared with me later shook me deeply. Months before her arranged marriage, she had eloped and married someone from another caste. She lived with him for a short time before he left her, claiming her character was questionable. Her family, desperate to protect their reputation, arranged another marriage as quickly as they could.
The unsettling part? The new groom was never told about her past. No divorce papers were filed, no closure was given—just a new beginning built on silence and deception. This left me wondering, how can any relationship, let alone a marriage, survive when it begins with hidden truths? Trust, once broken, is hard to repair, and in this case, the foundation itself was a lie.
Story 2: Three Days, Two Weddings, One Life of Deceit
In another case, a young woman from my neighborhood was on the verge of marrying through an arranged setup. Everything was prepared, the invitations sent, and the families ready to celebrate. But just three days before the wedding, she secretly married someone else and started living with him.
Her influential uncle got involved, and after some threats and coercion, the man she had eloped with backed off, leaving her in a tricky situation. Within days, her family arranged another marriage—this time without any trace of the chaos that had unfolded. The new groom, blissfully unaware of what had transpired, was brought into a marriage under false pretenses. It’s unsettling to think that a life-changing commitment can be made with so many hidden layers. How can we expect honesty and loyalty when the truth is concealed from the very beginning?
Story 3: The Perfect Husband, with a Dark Secret
There’s a man I know who seems to embody everything a husband and father should be. He’s deeply religious, loyal to his wife, and admired by his community. To everyone around him, he’s the perfect man—until you look deeper.
Beneath this facade, he’s a serial cheater who has left several women pregnant, only to abandon them. His ability to hide this dark side so well, while maintaining the appearance of a devoted family man, is terrifying. It’s a reminder that appearances can be deceiving, and people are often not who they seem. Trusting someone blindly, without knowing the depths of their character, is a gamble that can lead to devastating consequences.
These stories are just a few of the countless incidents I’ve come across, and each one leaves me more shaken than the last. It’s not just about arranged marriages—it’s about the world we live in today. A world where secrets are masked by smiles, where trust is easily betrayed, and where people manipulate others to protect their own image.
I know that not every arranged marriage is built on deceit, but experiences like these make me question the system over and over again. How can we truly trust what we don’t see? How do we put faith in something that could be a web of half-truths? As much as I want to believe in the beauty of marriage, stories like these make it hard to ignore the darker realities that can exist beneath the surface.
P.s: Happy being single.
