how to look gayer as a femme?

this might be such a a stupid question lmao

but how do i look gayer?

i mean i love being femme for the dykes, its just that men also think its for them, i want to look clearly gay!

i'm very small, i've got my long black hair, septum, a few more ear piercings, tattoos. kind of an alt/whimsigoth/lesbian librarian fashion style.

am i missing more staples of lesbian fashion?

i've had friends tell me i look clearly gay but also people told me they would have never guessed i am.

what are some fashion/aesthetic signs you look for when trying to realize if someone is gay? i'm looking for ideas