Part 2: Manipulative Classmate Update – I’m Done Being the “Bad Guy”!!!

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Before my first post, I had already tried talking to D several times about how her behavior was affecting me. Nothing changed. Every time I brought it up, her replies made me feel like I was the one who did something terribly wrong, like I was the culprit here.

Here’s some context: almost nobody in my class likes her. The few who talk to her also have stories about her behavior. But I didn’t mention her toxicity in my first post because I didn’t want to share everything. Yet, so many comments portrayed ME as the problem and her as some poor, loving girl. Why is she manipulating me if she’s so “innocent”? Because she isn’t.

Even when she tries to spend time with me, all she does is talk about herself. She did this, she did that, she got recognized for her book....blah blah Sure, it’s nice to share your achievements, but at some point, it just feels selfish.

And let me clear something up. People downvoted me when I said I’m an all-rounder and busy. I said it because it’s true! I’m a cultural quota student, and my department faculty proudly present me as one of their representatives. I’ve even been a college ambassador for programs, all while building my passion as a stage artist. I barely have time in classroom.

I thought D considered me a good friend and was happy for my success. But that’s not the case. I’ve seen her reaction when I share something positive. Once, I told my friends, “I’m going to this program as the college representative,” and her face completely changed, like I’d stolen something from her.

The same thing happened when I got an O grade in a subject where she got an A. For context, we both love the faculty who teaches the subject, and D was confident she’d be the topper. She’s still in the top 10, but apparently, that’s not enough for her. I have an 8 CGPA, and hers is 8.4—so close to an A+. Yet she gets jealous of my one grade which she haven't got, and not just grades—literally everything: youth festivals, quiz programs, debates, you name it.

Let me tell you about one quiz program. It was the first quiz I joined after becoming a fresher. I was planning to partner with someone else, but D begged me to join her team. She went on about how she “knows everything” and would “handle it all.” I reluctantly agreed.

The quiz questions turned out to be MA history-level. I’m a BA first-year student in a completely different discipline, so I wasn’t expecting much. I treated it as fun and answered the 5 questions I knew out of 10. D? She didn’t know a anything. NOT EVEN A SINGLE ONE. And instead of admitting it, she started blaming me for not knowing the rest of the answers!

At first, I stayed quiet, but she wouldn’t stop yapping. So, I finally said, “At least I knew 5. What about you?” That shut her up, and she apologized. But this is who she is.

And yet, people still think I’m the B. I honestly don’t care anymore. Why does she keep coming to me, even after showing her envy so many times? I just needed to get this off my chest.

TL;DR: I’ve tried talking to a toxic classmate (D) multiple times, but nothing changes. She’s manipulative, constantly jealous of my achievements, and selfishly talks only about herself. She even blamed me for a failed quiz we took together, despite not knowing a single answer herself. I’m done feeling like the bad guy.