Doctors with no bedside manner

Hey everyone! I am well into my third trimester and just a little bit of a background before I go into why I’m so mad lol. I got on an insulin pump after fighting with insurance over it for two years, in March 2023. I went from an A1c of 10 to 8.2 in a little over a year. In July, I found out I was pregnant so I really really tried to get my A1c down and have managed to get it down to 5.9 since then with an average of about 130. I am on the Omni pod so it has been a little bit hard with fasting numbers because the lowest I can set it to is 110, and I’ve been having Issues with Dexcom being more than 80 off on my reading so they’re not always as accurate. False highs, and false lows. Well, anyways, I obviously am seeing maternal fetal medicine for being pregnant since I’m high-risk, and I’ve seen about five or six different doctors.

About a month ago, I saw a new Doctor Who scolded me and told me I was doing a terrible job with my diabetes, which made me freak out, cry, and my blood pressure went so high that he told me I was in risk for preeclampsia. Later that week I ended up in the ER cause I was so stressed about it because I had a high blood pressure. Come to find out I had a faulty monitor and the man just stressed me out so badly telling me I was doing a terrible job for my baby and that 5.9 was not good enough. And then I got to see another doctor two weeks after that who ironically was a diabetic and he said I was doing a great job, and lowering my A1c from 8.2 to 5.9 as a huge accomplishment in six months and I should be proud of myself, which is all I wanted to hear.

So fast-forward to today I see another Doctor Who also tells me I’m doing a terrible job and that I could jeopardize my very healthy babies life and it’s just like why do they not teach bedside manner and how can they have the nerve to comment on things when I’m literally doing my best I can’t control the highs. I’m not even eating sometimes and I shoot up and I can only do so much so I just don’t know why they tell me to jump 20 feet, I jump 20 feet and then they say oh that’s not far enough you needed to actually jump 25 feet.

Has anyone else dealt with this? It’s literally the most discouraging thing when you work so hard for something and they can’t even respect you as a human to acknowledge it. They also have no idea how hard diabetes is (type one for almost 26 years) , and adding in pregnancy and they just don’t care.

Also, fun fact… I see a separate endo and they’re not even supposed to be commenting on my diabetes.

Sorry for my long rant, I just needed to get it off my chest.