Anal sex is destroying my marriage

Happily married for 12 yrs, 3 kids. Great job and great family. Then Husband suffered from depression for past 3 yrs , went on medication, during depression he did alcohol etc. 0 libido. Laid off his job. 10 months ago, he stopped medication. Wants to do better. No sexual desire. Went on TRT. Recently He only desires anal. All what he dreams of and want. He struggles with ejaculation. I dont want anal at all. I am sick of this. We are doing thereby and the therapist and him is pressuring me to do so every month to compromise and satisfy his desires. I love him and this is killing me. I wish this ends soon. What should i do?