AIO for feeling I(19F) should break up with my boyfriend (21M) of 1 and a half year for finding liked videos of thirst traps on his phone ?

So our relationship has definitely had its ups and downs but he's always been so patient with me especially since I'm kind of a nut case. I am aware I have trust issues and an anxious attachment style when it comes to love but there's never been a problem even remotely related to infidelity in our relationship, neither from his side nor mine.

2 days ago I was going through his phone ( kind of stupid I know but i had a feeling) and searched everything, didn't find anything remotely suspicious except for when I went through his liked videos on tik tok and found approximately 13 liked videos of random half naked girls lip syncing from 3 months ago. I was so disgusted and mad ,I woke him up and asked for an explanation but he got mad at me for waking him up at 3am , said he didn't remember liking them, got mad because he felt I was overreacting bc he's been completely faithful to me, immediately put a password bc he got mad at me for going through his phone (I have been caught doing that again, have never found anything but he doesn't like that I "spy on him" ,however I don't see a big issue, he can search my phone whenever he likes if he feels like it but I get it). I got even more upset and kicked him out that very moment not only because of the thirst traps but his attitude too.

Some context: My boyfriend loves me very much he is a genuine person from a small town but I feel like he makes no effort when it comes to communication as he's kind of slow when processing a situation and gets stressed and very defensive when I make complaints/ call out some behaviors. As a result ,when we fight his responses are unfulfilling something that makes me upset and I end up yelling at him. He also needs time to process the situation which can take up to 2 days, the thing is I cannot take it if we don't speak for 2days and i always end up messaging him first to reconcile, something that also upsets me very much. I just can't get how you can go 2 days not talking to someone you're supposedly in love with?? Especially if you're in the wrong. I don't ask for an immediate solution but some reassurance that you still love me deeply and everything will be alright

Anyways he called the next morning but I was asleep and out of spite i told I'd call later . Called him after 3 hours 2 times he did not answer, called him again after 1 and a half hour he picked up saying he was very busy with work. After another 2 hours I called him asking if he's still at work he said he had had dropped by a friend to give back some work stuff that the had catered for. I was so upset bc it was practically nighttime and I told him you could have at least updated me on when we're gonna talk and instantly broke up with him. Impulsive decision ik but I felt ignored. He tried calling only one time i didn't pick up but later that night I couldn't take it and called him asking to meet up and talk.

He was so mad at me saying I'm overreacting extremely about the situation and have not been nice to him but I feel like i have been chasing him for answers and an apology while he's not even owned up to the situation. Anyway at the end we calmed down he kind of understood me but the truth is I still feel very disrespected ,ignored ,desperate for trying to get his attention on a matter that hurt me so much I couldnt lie next to him so I sent him away.

One friend of mine (19F) says I definitely overreacted and it's not that deep what you like and that it was just 13 videos. Another friend (17F) says she wouldn't let it slide. I'm very hurt not only by this action but by his approach on the matter too. We have kind of reconciled but I looked at his picture today and I was so disgusted and sad I keep feeling I am not enough and feel very disrespected.

Sometimes my mind fogs up ,so what do you think am I overreacting? All criticism is welcome in a kind manner

PS: sorry for any mistakes , English is not my first language