AITAH for not giving my relatives free legal services as a lawyer because they’ve always treated me as the black sheep

Hi Reddit. My family is currently upset with me and I don’t think I’m in the wrong.

I grew up in a shitty town in Florida. No one in my family ever went to college. The general mindset in my family is to live life in the moment. Everyone’s pretty outgoing. My parents are part of Mardi Gras crews, my siblings all played sports. They’re generally a fun bunch. But I never really fit in.

As I kid I liked to read, and I focused really hard on school. I hated going outside, and I especially hate the heat. I played chess, and was on the debate team. My family all kind of gave me shit for all of this. They never really made an effort to do things I enjoy, but my parents loved to go to my siblings sports games. They wouldn’t come to my debates. It was the same for all of my cousins, and other extended family.

As I got older I focused on my education and my career. I’ve drifted apart from my family. They only call me when they want something at this point in my life. I’m now happily married, and I have my own practice as a family law attorney. My husband is a judge in the neighboring county.

Over the last few years I’ve had several extended relatives reach out to me for legal help or questions. I always brush them off and tell them I’m too busy. I don’t feel obligated to help because once again, they only reach out to me because they want something from me. Recently though my sister lost custody of her kids to her ex husband. Apparently her lawyer was not so great, so now she only has every other weekend. My sister has a messy past that was drug into court.

My older sister called me begging me to represent her for free and help her get her kids back. I was honest with her, I don’t even know her kids and I don’t really care if she has them or not. I pointed out that she hasn’t called me in years, and yet now she’s asking for me to do her a massive favor, for free. I told her no. My mother called me to shame me, for not helping my sister, and for not helping any of my other relatives when they’ve asked.

I asked her when was the last time any of them called me even just to see how I’m doing. I pointed out that my cousin is a landscaper. He could’ve offered to do yard work for me in exchange for legal services, but instead he just called me up asking for free help. My sister could’ve offered something, or at least asked to pay me back later, but instead she expects free work. Which isn’t even free, seeing as I have an office to pay for, paralegals to pay, bills to pay. I kind of went off on her, and she ended up just hanging up the phone on me. AITAH?